Inner Tools for Men
and the shop to build stuff in
Community and coaching for men
The life challenge for men is to make our best contribution. That means outer work and inner work. Sometimes the inner work looks like intense pain, isolation, confusion. Sometimes it looks like a magnificent adventure. Sometimes it's in between but everyone deals with everything sometime.
Here are some of the hard things:
- You're isolated. There's no one to talk to about vital things.
- You feel confusion, stress, anxiety even if you cover it well. (These often accompany isolation.)
- You're under or unemployed.
- You're stressed around "gender issues," even if you know your opinion.
- You don't know how a man is supposed to be or you don't like how he's supposed to be.
- Unresolved issues or trauma from your family or origin, or your present family, weigh heavy on you.
- You're living Groundhog Day. And you're not even Bill Murray.
I'm a "mistake expert" in these issues. I know what they're like and maybe I can help. Call me and let's see. I've been doing coaching and especially collective exploration groups for a while. Come help me set up a group just for men and get my men's coaching off the ground.
The Good News - The Gifts
We have natural gifts just because we're men. We've also got particular gifts that are uniquely ours. The gifts are hidden in the longing we feel. Meeting the longing on its own field changes us.
We can't meet the real longing on our own. The lone hero is mostly a fiction. People need each other and men need each other. Think of the fellowship of the ring. Frodo didn't go alone and wouldn't have succeeded if he did. Men's success is a group effort. Women can't do this part of the journey for us because they don't know what it's like to be a man. They don't have the tools we need.
And here are some of the longings:
- To love and be loved
- To make our most treasured value live in the world
- To be part of the fight for the future
- To know we're the right man in the right place
- To dance with men of serious intent
- To leave something behind